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The Difference Between Cussing and Cursing: My Thoughts as a Christian

WRITINGSRELATIONSHIPSSPIRITUAL GROWTH

Deborah Colleen Rose

1/25/20255 min read

a neon sign that reads holy shit
a neon sign that reads holy shit

Language is powerful, and the way we use words can shape our interactions, emotions, and even our spiritual lives. While many people often use the terms "cussing" and "cursing" interchangeably, there’s actually a significant difference in meaning—especially when we look at the Bible’s perspective on the subject.

Cussing: A Modern Phenomenon

In today's language, "cussing" is commonly understood as the act of using profanity or vulgar language. These words, often considered inappropriate or offensive, are typically used to express strong emotions like anger, frustration, or surprise. For example, words like the “F-word” or “S-word” might be used to release pent-up feelings or to emphasize a point. I am known for my use of the F word like sugar on a cookie. The word takes on many definitions, controlled strictly by the context and the tone of my voice.

In today’s forum, cussing has become more normalized in many contexts. People most often view it as a form of self-expression or emotional release. However, many others still view it as disrespectful or inappropriate, particularly in formal settings or when used to hurt others. Now let’s be realistic. Any word meant to hurt another person takes on a huge shift in meaning, power and energy and this is not limited to “cuss” words. The best and most over used example is “Bless your heart.” I don’t think this needs any explanation.

Cursing in the Bible: A Serious Matter

In contrast, when we look at the Bible, the concept of "cursing" goes far beyond the use of foul language. In biblical terms, cursing involves invoking divine judgment or wishing misfortune upon someone. This is what is meant when we are instructed to not use the Lord’s name in vain. It is about the power of calling down horrible misfortune on someone or something. It is not for us to use, much less misuse such power or ill will. It’s not about using inappropriate words, but rather about calling down harm or suffering—often in the form of God's judgment or punishment.

For instance, in the Old Testament, individuals like Noah, Abraham, and others pronounced curses on those who had wronged them or defied God. A well-known example is in Genesis 9:25, when Noah curses Canaan, the son of Ham, for Ham’s disrespect. Similarly, in the New Testament, Jesus curses a fig tree (Mark 11:12-14) because it failed to bear fruit, symbolizing the consequences of spiritual barrenness.

Biblical cursing often has a spiritual or prophetic dimension, invoking divine retribution. This type of cursing is connected to a serious, long-lasting consequence and carries weight in terms of the relationship between people and God. I frankly do not want that ability nor the responsibility of even making the kind of demand to call down retribution. What are your thoughts, especially in light of the turmoil we see every day?

The Key Difference: Intent and Impact

The major difference between modern cussing and biblical cursing lies in intent and impact.

· Cussing in today’s world is more about the expression of strong emotions. While it can be disrespectful or hurtful, it’s primarily a form of communication, often used in moments of stress or anger. Cussing may be spontaneous or even used in humor, but it doesn’t typically carry the weight of invoking divine power or judgment.

· Cursing in the Bible, however, is deeply serious. It’s about wishing harm, misfortune, or spiritual consequences onto someone or something. Biblical curses are often connected to the idea of divine authority, and when they’re pronounced, they’re seen as actions that can bring about real, lasting changes—whether in the form of judgment, disaster, or transformation.

What Type of Personality is More Likely to Cuss?

When it comes to who is more likely to cuss, one might assume that an individual’s education level plays a significant role. However, research and psychological insights suggest that education level is not the only determining factor—other aspects such as personality traits, social environment, and emotional regulation also have an impact.

1. Personality and Emotional Expression: People who are more emotionally expressive or prone to anger are more likely to use cuss words, regardless of their educational background. Studies have shown that individuals who have a more impulsive or aggressive personality may resort to swearing as a way to vent frustration or assert dominance in a conversation. This is often true for people who haven’t learned how to regulate their emotions effectively, which may not always correlate with education level. I personally find a good cuss word to offer immediate release of frustration and frayed emotions, enabling me to be calm headed and cool tongued when dealing with others.

2. Social Environment: The culture or social environment someone is in also plays a huge role. If a person is surrounded by friends, family, or colleagues who frequently use profanity, they’re more likely to pick up this habit. So, less formal settings where cussing is more socially accepted, even highly educated individuals may use foul language, while someone in a more professional or "clean" setting may avoid it.

3. Education and Vocabulary: On the flip side, educated individuals might have a larger vocabulary, allowing them to express themselves more clearly and precisely, often without needing to resort to profanity. However, that’s not always the case—educated people still may cuss, especially when caught off guard or experiencing strong emotions. Some highly educated people also use cuss words as a form of emphasis or for comedic effect, understanding that they have the linguistic skill to wield profanity effectively.

4. Stress and Coping Mechanisms: Research suggests that people with lower emotional intelligence or fewer coping strategies may rely on cussing as an emotional outlet. This is often seen in high-stress environments where someone’s emotional reaction is spontaneous, and they lack other tools for managing frustration or anger. This can happen across all education levels.

How Christians Are Called to Speak

While the Bible doesn’t specifically address "cussing" as we understand it today, it does emphasize the importance of how we speak. Ephesians 4:29 teaches, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." This passage suggests that the focus for Christians should be on using language that encourages and uplifts others, rather than causing harm or promoting negativity.

Even though cussing isn't exactly the same as biblical cursing, it can still be harmful in its own way. It can damage relationships, escalate conflict, and even reflect a lack of self-control. Many Christians strive to avoid cussing because they believe their words should reflect the love and grace that God extends to others. I see this as being called to task as to whether we are a stepping stone or a stumbling block. So if I choose to cuss, I need to be aware of it’s acceptance and impact or willing to accept the consequences. As a side note, I have to admit, sometimes I am rough talking as a way of seeing how embracing a person is willing to be and if they able to not be judgmental. This helps me to understand quickly on how to approach the person for further exchange and communication.

Understanding the Difference

While cussing and cursing are often confused in modern conversations, understanding their distinctions can offer us a clearer perspective. Cussing, as we know it today, typically involves swearing or using offensive language as an emotional outlet. Cursing, on the other hand, is a more serious biblical concept related to invoking divine judgment or wishing harm upon others.

For those who follow the teachings of the Bible, the emphasis is on using our words to encourage and lift each other up, not to tear each other down. Whether or not swearing is something a person chooses to do is ultimately a personal decision and committment, but the key is to make sure our speech reflects God’s love—bringing peace, kindness, and understanding instead of anger or harm. And for those who are on the listening side of things…. How about some empathy, grace and compassion if someone slips. I like to think that I can match the intensity of others passion of emotion with the same intensity of grace. Or at least I try to.